Megan and Harry Said Their Vows Yesterday; How Sacred Are These Vows?
May 20, 2018
I have always wanted to write on the sacredness of marriage vows, watching the royal wedding vows exchange between Megan and Harry reminds me that these words are not just wordy vows but proclamations to be committed till death.
Harry said his vows first, and his vows go thus, “I Harry, take you, Meghan, to be my wife, to have and to hold from this day forward,’ he said. ‘For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death we do part; according to God’s holy law. In the presence of God, I make this vow.”
After Harry said his vows Megan said hers, saying, “I Meghan, take you, Harry, to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part; according to God’s holy law. In the presence of God, I make this vow.”
Yes, they said the vows and they are now joined as husband and wife, the whole world watched the party but those vows are powerful. In the last one year, I have often thought of what these altar declarations before the congregation meant, “for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death we do part.” Really, did someone utter these words at the altar of God?
Why do we still have an alarming statistical data on marriage divorce today? Apart from battery which I totally support a divorce for, why do people decide to end a marriage because of financial crises and chronic diseases? I have heard of marriages that are dissolved because of money or because of one of the spouse’s ill health.
My question is do we count the cost before we decide that we want to end up with a particular lady or man? Counting the cost is the most important, we have to be sure that it is really for richer and for poorer. Not that after one year that you have used your little wealth to plan a wedding ceremony and have entertained people at your wedding occasion and there is no longer sign of riches in the marriage then either party let loose.
Even today, the rate at which chronic diseases like cancer attack people, make me always want to think twice about my marriage goals. No one really prays for his or her loved one to be attacked by any of these life-threatening diseases, but, what if? Are you staying for better or leaving for worse? They are big utterances that we young singles have to bear in mind, beyond the “aso ebi,” beyond the elaborate exposure of riches, beyond my, “I have to work that my children attend Harvard University or Yale,” we need to count the cost, and to, in all sincerity to oneself understand the reason for the vows.
Are you going to stand with him? Are you going to stand with her? Does your love conquer all? Good, Ugly, Worse, or Less ugly? Which lane, direction or decision would you decide to take on your wedding day, as all these determine the altitude of your blissful forever after. Love is all we need, the American Bishop, Micheal Curry said yesterday at Windsor, but when love fails, what is left? Your commitment plus your love keeps the marriage.
I am still counting the cost, yet undecided but the decision is tough because of my belief that this union is sacred. However, above all, I firmly restate that there is no “for better, for worse” in assault and battery.